Why Innate Femininity?
When I was thinking about a name for my blog, the aim was to find one that characterizes me. Analyzing my personality, I came up with the idea of femininity which suited me well and associated with my behavior, clothing and appearance. At first, I wanted to call it Embrace Femininity but unfortunately, this domain name was already taken 🙁 so I had to get creative and find something new. There were multiple alternatives afterwards but I decided to go with Innate Femininity because in my case, it is probably innate. Why? Because I have always been girly, sensitive and gentle, had long hair, a narrow waist and wore skirts and dresses. Yes, these are all cliché attributes but nevertheless, this is (partly) how we generally define femininity or at least, this is what femininity is about for most of us.
One of my fervent readers raised some interesting questions and I decided to give her an answer through a blogpost because it might interest some of you as well.
-What do you define as a feminine attitude? And does not being feminine, reserved or distinguished make you somewhat vulgar?
For me, a feminine attitude is being a lady. Gracious, kind, sweet and romantic are some of the adjectives that qualify a feminine woman. She is distinguished and sophisticated but at the same time innocent. Good manners like being respectful and polite matter as well. She also walks confidently and dresses in a girly, classy way.
If a woman does not behave in this way, it does not necessarily mean she is vulgar. There is the bad girl type )), for example, which is a style some girls adopt as well. I think they feel more powerful by disregarding feminine traits but they do not appear vulgar, at least not always 😉
I feel like I fell into extremes by giving you the examples of two opposite attitudes )). Is there something in the middle? Undoubtedly! Lots of girls simply feel indifferent towards femininity and do not pay particular attention to their attitude but they are not vulgar, neither are they deficient in taste.
-Is a feminine attitude a requirement for a girl? Who is it required by? Herself? Her culture? The people around her?
I would say no but it is my personal opinion! At least, not nowadays. A few centuries ago, this was kind of a big deal. I would call it a cultural standard: women were required to be feminine and men masculine. Therefore, femininity and masculinity were more like learnt behaviors.
As for the question about who required it, I cannot exclude anyone. Be it the culture, the society – everyone had a role in this. Femininity was like a goal to reach and it took practice to achieve this perfection. In many educational books/movies, we see that women had to dress and behave in a certain way, even show “feminine” emotions but at the same time repress those characterized as virile.
You probably want to hear about these modern times)) but as I have already said, I tend to think that femininity is not a requirement anymore. There are certainly exceptions but nevertheless, we are free to decide for ourselves, girls 🙂 .Being a feminist, I encourage girls and women to make individualized choices and admire those who step out of the box.
-Where (if anywhere) does femininity stop being innate and become a burden? Is there room for self-expression in femininity?
To me, being feminine is always a goal, it is who I am and want to be. It comes effortlessly and therefore, it has never been a burden. I have to admit that in some ways, it is a learnt behavior. In fact, I am constantly trying to improve my feminine traits but I feel like I already possess them so I am not changing my personality. It’s not like – I am usually swearing but avoid doing so because I want to be feminine 😀 .
Also, I do not limit myself by strictly following some “femininity rules”, that’s why I think there is definitely room for self-expression. I wanted a tattoo and I did it although it may not be considered as feminine. You want to wear ripped jeans, go for it, there has to be a way to wear them in a feminine way 🙂 .
Here the series of questions and answers come to an end and I would like to thank my audience for such challenging questions. It was a pleasure to have a “deeper conversation” 😉
Down bellow you’ll find some photos of a smart outfit, perfect for office days, school or college. Enjoy!
Top – H&M
Blazer – H&M (similar)
Jeans – Asos
Sandals – La Halle
Till next Sunday!